If you’ve decided that your marriage is over, there are a number of decisions that will need to me take, steps to be taken and emotional hurdles to overcome. Here are 10 things to consider if your marriage is coming to an end.
1. Before you proceed with a divorce, it may be worth considering a trial separation. Even if, right now, you do not expect the marriage to continue, this will allow you some breathing space from your spouse and buy you time to think and make sure it’s the only solution.
2. If you decide that the marriage is definitely over, finding a good divorce solicitor will be your next step. While the process is always easier where the split is amicable, there are likely to be parts of the process that you’ll need to fully understand and may require advice on. Divorce solicitors have years of experience in helping people in your situation, so are well worth contacting at the start of the proceedings.
3. One you’re divorced, it’s important that you make a new will. Were you to die without a will, or your old will in place, there would be a chance that your former spouse could lay claim to your assets. By making a new will, you can specify exactly what you would want to happen in the event of your death.
4. During your divorce, it will be important to close any shared bank or saving accounts you both own. Your divorce solicitors will help this to be completed amicably and fairly.
5. Ahead of, during and following your divorce, make sure your children are put first. Their best interests will need to be considered and upheld throughout the process and going forward. If you’re planning to move away to a new town, it’s important to think long and hard about the consequences for your children.
6. Once the divorce has been finalised, it’s worth sitting down and outlining a financial plan to ensure you have a lifestyle that is sustainable.
7. Whether you have been living in the married home and now need to find somewhere new following the proposed sale of the property, or you have been temporarily living in rented accommodation while the divorce was taking place, you will eventually need to think about your long-term living arrangements. This will no doubt be influenced by the outcome of your financial planning.
8. The emotional impact of a divorce can be very difficult to overcome, no matter whether you were the instigator or not, so it’s absolutely crucial that you surround yourself with friends and family that can provide the support you’ll need.
9. Staying positive about the future will also be essential to your emotional recovery. There are times during the process where the future can look pretty bleak, but by staying positive you can make your new life away from the marriage a good one.
10. There can often be a lot of bitterness and resentment when a marriage comes to an end, and while you’re unlikely to forget what’s happened, it’s important to let go of the past and avoid dwelling on negative feelings.
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